By John Valentik, MS, CSCS, NASM-PES, CES

We are on the back end of a once in a lifetime vacation and are just leaving Disneyland. I wanted to share something that Paige and I have been focused on which has certainly added to the trip’s success and overall happiness level! Be positive, be patient has been the motto. However, I realized in the process that being present has also been a focal point. Embracing the three P’s—Patience, Positivity, and Being Present—can transform not only our vacation experiences, but it can enhance our daily lives as well. Let’s explore why each is important and how we can incorporate them into our routines.

Patience

Patience is the ability to stay calm and composed, even when faced with delays or challenges. This is easier said than done when driving 1,600+ miles in a few weeks with two toddlers. It helps us manage stress, make better decisions, and maintain healthy relationships. By practicing patience, we can avoid unnecessary frustration and cultivate a sense of inner peace.

We can incorporate patience by starting your day with a few minutes of deep breathing or meditation. When faced with a stressful situation, take a moment to pause and reflect before reacting. On vacation, embrace the slower pace. Allow yourself to enjoy the journey, whether it’s waiting for a flight or exploring a new destination. Remember, the best experiences often come when we least expect them.

Positivity

Positivity is the practice of focusing on the good in any situation. Again, easier said than done when two kids are beginning to whine, complain, and ask ‘are we there yet?’ 30 minutes into a 4-hour leg of our trip. But positivity boosts our mood, improves mental health, and can even enhance physical well-being. A positive mindset helps us navigate life’s ups and downs with resilience and grace.

One thing that has worked very well for me is meditation and journaling. I start each day writing in a gratitude journal, noting anything I’m grateful for in that moment. On vacation it’s easy because I’m surrounded by my family in beautiful places. Other days it might be the air in my lungs, the sight of the leaves blowing in the breeze, our home, my career, you name it! Surround yourself with positive influences, whether it’s uplifting music, inspiring books, or supportive friends. On vacation, approach your travels with an open mind and a positive attitude. Celebrate the small victories, like finding a hidden gem or making a new friend. One our Vegas to San Diego leg, we stopped at a fantastic 50’s diner and had an awesome meal in a incredible environment. Positivity can turn any trip into a memorable adventure.

Being Present

Being present means fully engaging with the current moment, rather than dwelling on the past or worrying about the future. That moment might be chaos in the middle of Disneyland or just watching the kids play on a playground instead of doom scrolling on my phone. Being present enhances our experiences, strengthens relationships, and promotes mindfulness. By being present, we can truly appreciate life, including all the little things we often overlook.

Practice mindfulness by focusing on your senses—what you see, hear, smell, taste, and touch. It might not always be your favorite sense, like a 3-year old scream when Parker starts eating Charlotte’s food. But open your senses to what’s around you, instead of just what’s on your phone or TV. In a world filled with screen time, limit distractions by setting aside time for technology-free activities. While on vacation, immerse yourself in the environment. Take time to enjoy each moment, whether it’s a meal, watching a sunset, or simply relaxing by a beach or a pool. Being present allows you to create lasting memories.

By embracing patience, positivity, and being present, we can enrich our daily lives and make the most of our vacations. These three P’s aren’t just concepts; they are practices that can lead to a more fulfilling and balanced life. Start incorporating them today and watch how they transform your life and experiences.