By John Valentik, MS, CSCS, NASM-PES, CES

September is National Suicide Prevention Month, a time to remind ourselves that mental health deserves the same level of attention and care as physical health.

As many of you know, I lost my Dad, Chris Valentik, to suicide on August 25, 2020. Preceding that, I lost my Stepfather, John Theodore, to cancer on March 31, 2020. Since the worst year of my life, I’ve learned a lot about myself as well as the lack of focus that our society puts into mental health.

Think about it: if you broke a bone, you wouldn’t hesitate to see a doctor. You’d get an X-ray, follow a treatment plan, and allow yourself time to heal. Struggling mentally deserves the same urgency and compassion.

Mental Health Is Health

Our minds and bodies are inseparable. Stress, anxiety, and depression can affect sleep, immune function, and even heart health. Seeking therapy, joining a support group, or talking with a trusted friend is no different than going to physical therapy for an injury—it’s a step toward healing, not a sign of weakness.

Move Beyond Surface-Level Connections

In a world full of texts and social media, many of us have many relationships but very few deep ones. It’s easy to exchange “How are you?” and accept “Good!” without ever digging deeper. But genuine check-ins — How are you really doing? — can make a world of difference.

Be Present, For Yourself and Others

• Listen without judgment. Sometimes people just need to be heard.
• Ask twice. A second, gentle “No, really—how are you?” often opens the door. Even waiting a moment after their initial response may be enough to coax some additional conversation.
• Share resources. Encourage professional help when needed.

End the Stigma

Talking openly about suicide and mental health doesn’t plant the idea; it opens a lifeline. When we normalize these conversations, we give others—and ourselves—permission to seek help early.

If you or someone you know is in crisis, in the U.S. you can call or text 988 for the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline or use the chat via 988lifeline.org.

You are not alone, and help is always available.

Caring for your mental health is not optional or secondary. Treat your mind as you would your body—with respect, proactive care, and the courage to seek support. A heartfelt conversation today could truly save a life.